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Rebecca Taylor

ruffle dress (40% off!)  // nude pumps // mini tote

When I first sat down to write about this ruffle blue dress from Rebecca Taylor, I had a creative block. It is a beautiful, classic dress. One that deserve a novel written about it. A dress that was made for me.  If I were to be designing dresses, this would be in my collection. Feminine detailing, beautiful coloring, the dress is a dream come true. But for some reason today I do not want to write about fashion or why you must buy this dress (which is currently 40% off right now!!!), instead I want to talk about real life.

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I am someone who either lives in the past or is in a state of anxiety about the future. Lately, however,  (really ever since I moved back to New York) I have been living in the present moment. I am happy. No matter what is currently going on around me or what is happening to me, I am genuinely happy. Am I where I want to be in life? No, but I am getting there.  Do I still live in the past or have anxiety about the future? Yes, of course. I am human after all and I have plans, BIG plans. But my overall attitude is I am happy with what I have. I try to let go of where I think I should be at this moment or in the future, and just try to ride the waves of life.

 “Happiness is letting go of what you think your life should be.” 

How did I get here, in this mindset? Well I went through hell to get here and I fought to get to where I am. Happiness is a mindset. When I start to freak out about finances, my schedule, friendships, collaborations or my Instagram picture not doing as well as I thought (#bloggerproblems), I sit back and think– I am doing what I love, I am fortunate to be able to do what I love in the city that I love so much, and the new Instagram sucks. I try not to fret over the things I can not control. I just think “ok I do not have it now but I will someday.” I say this to myself about my career, relationships, fitness and health, and so on. Worrying will get you no where– only a mini stroke, pre-mature wrinkles, and an unhealthy mind and body.

Something else I have come to terms with is letting go of the past. Letting go of friendships that are toxic and broken, past relationships that left me heartbroken, and my own past criticism and self doubt. I feel I am at a crossroads where I am shedding off the final layers of my past to evolve into my future.

Like I said I am no where near where I want to be, and that is ok. I still continue to do what I do and count my blessings. When I think back on my life I have had a pretty great life. Sure there has been bumps in the road and the downs have been pretty low, but I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone else’s. And I have tried to stop comparing myself to others. All I know is that I am happy with where I am right now, and happy with where I am going. I think that is all that matters really. The rest is just lessons we learn or things that haven’t even happened yet. Why get so caught up in it all when you can’t control any of it. All you can do is learn to be happy in the moment.  And I can honestly say that I am happy. The little moments and the big moments I enjoy every second of. Why shouldn’t we enjoy and celebrate the little things just as much as the big things in life? I get just as excited about my salad for lunch or binge watching a TV show, even going to work as I do landing a major collaboration or dating a new guy. It is not what happens to you it is how you react to it. And I am choosing to be happy with it all.

Thanks for letting me go off topic and talk about what has been going on in my life— and in all seriousness this ruffle blue dress is amazing and on sale!!! 🙂